10 Signs You’re A Bad Girlfriend

Remember how last week we gave you 10 signs to show that you might have a bad boyfriend? Well, blaming all relationship issues on the guy isn’t exactly fair… although us girls are lovely, sometimes we can be the cause of a bad relationship, too.

I don’t want you guys to think I’m picking on you or putting you down. Relationships are hard work and we all mess up sometimes. And when we’re the ones doing the wrong thing, it can sometimes be hard to convince ourselves of that. Being a bad girlfriend doesn’t mean you’re a bad person – it just means you may need to change some things, or take some time before you go into a serious relationship. If you’re worried about what kind of girlfriend you are, check out these signs that you just might be doing the wrong thing – and acting like a bad girlfriend.

You're Super Clingy

You love your boyfriend and you want to spend as much time with him as possible - totally understandable! But you can't have your BF all to yourself. He does have other friends and family members he needs to make time for. Part of a healthy relationship is being able to be apart sometimes. If you refuse to give your BF a boy's night out once or twice or a week or if you insist on doing absolutely everything together, you're going to suffocate him and probably push him away.

You Never Believe Anything He Says

As I've said a million times before, trust is a huge part of a relationship. If you feel like you don't trust your boyfriend, then maybe you shouldn't be with him. Doubting everything he says, constantly checking up on him and always believing he's doing something behind your back isn't fair to him. If he's given you a reason to not trust him, maybe it's time to move on. If he never has, you need to give him a fair chance.

You've Caught Yourself Lying To Him

If you've found yourself in more than a few "little white lies," that's not good either. Lying to your boyfriend isn't cool - don't tell him you're going one place when you're really going somewhere else. Don't lie to him about who you're hanging out with or who you're texting. Not only is lying downright rude, it's also messy, and getting caught is a quick way to end a relationship.

You Fight With Him... A Lot

Arguments happen occasionally in every good relationship. But if you find yourself constantly picking fights with your dude - something isn't right. If he annoys you all the time, maybe that means you need some time apart. Or, if you're just blaming him for things because you hate being wrong, you need to tone it down.

You're Only Dating Him Because You Want A Boyfriend

Maybe you were really sick of being single and alone when you met your BF. Maybe you just needed someone to cuddle with sometimes. It's okay to feel lonely - it's not okay to use someone because they can fix your loneliness a little. That's selfish. If you're only dating this guy until someone better comes along, stop. You owe it to him and yourself to date someone you really care about. Having a boyfriend is not that big of a deal that you need to force yourself to date one!

You Snoop Through His Stuff

Like I said before - trust is an important part of a relationship. That being said, snooping through your BF's stuff is not cool. How would you like if he did that to you? If you think something shady is going on, talk to him. Don't skim through his text messages or hunt down his Facebook password to check out what he's doing. That's disrespectful. His private stuff isn't yours to go through.

You Flirt... A Lot

A little flirting is harmless - emphasis on a little. But if you're known as the Class Flirt and you find yourself flirting with other guys more than your boyfriend, that's not okay. Be respectful towards your boyfriend and don't do things outside of your relationship that would make you uncomfortable if he did it. If you want to play the field, there's nothing wrong with that - just make sure you're single first.

His Friends Don't Like You

When you walk into a room of his buddies, do they all get sort of quiet and weird? Do you have a serious suspicion that none of them really like you? If none of your boyfriend's friends have any interest in getting to know you, it could be a sign that they think you're bad for their friend.

You Have Him Pay For Everything

There's absolutely nothing wrong with letting your guy pick up the bill for dinner or the movies once in a while. And there's nothing wrong with accepting surprise gifts from him or letting him treat you to dessert. But you shouldn't expect your BF to pay for everything all the time. Offer to pick up the check once in a while or treat him to his favorite ice cream flavor one night. Don't make him feel like he needs to pay for everything.

You're Trying To Change Him

A lot of times, girls go into "fixer-upper" relationships, meaning that they want to change some things about their boyfriend to suit their needs. That's not really fair to your boyfriend. You need to let him be his own person, even if what he's doing is annoying you. Unless he's doing something really wrong or seriously disrespecting you, you shouldn't try to change his behavior. If you want him to be different, maybe you're in the wrong relationship.