6 Ways Being A Better Listener Can Make You Better At Sex

It’s no secret: Men value their sexual prowess. Knowing that you’re capable of satisfying your lady in the bedroom is a source of tremendous pride, but sadly, men don’t put the same premium on being good listeners. But guess what? The two don’t have to be mutually exclusive. It’s true; being a better listener can make you better at sex. Don’t believe it? Well, open your eyes and ears, and check out this list!

Listening with eyes. Eye contact is a must when it comes to being a good listener. When you keep good eye contact during a conversation, you’re letting your partner know just how interested you are in her. But the same holds true when it comes to sex, right? Keeping your eyes locked on your partner can help heighten the intensity of your passionate session. Get used to looking deep into her eyes by focusing on her during conversation.

Listening all night long. Do not talk when they talk and listen when they speak. Don’t over-reciprocate. Just listen. Tolerate it if you need to. If you can’t listen out of bed then you surely will not listen in bed. One of the reasons women love men who can listen. Even if it takes all night long. Practicing this unselfish behavior will lead to unselfish behavior in the bedroom, which is possibly the most important character trait when it comes to sex.

Mentally jot down the hints. The little hints of sexual likes and dislikes can prove very worthy in the bedroom. Listen for what turns them on. Could be a song. Could be you singing. Could be almost anything. But there’s only one way to gather this information for better sex—by listening. Those who listen long enough for sex hints, and can tolerate it without losing it, end up having the best sex.

Offering slight advice brings out the nice. When your sex partner offers slight advice, take it anyway you can. Even with a grain of salt. Advice taken can be arousing. It shows your sex partner that you can be flexible and open to suggestion, which can be twice as helpful in bed. Once your sex partner knows that you can take their advice, let them control the moment where they advise you to try something unique and possibly kinky!

At least she’ll act interested. In order to appear as if you’re listening you’ll have to act interested. Putting a casual yet serious look on that face and saying “yes, yes, ah huh” every now and then helps. If you stop what you’re doing and act interested in what she has to say, you’re making her feel important and appreciated. No woman is going to jump into bad for great sex with a man they think doesn’t find them interesting.

Lending a hand. You’ll need your hand during sex, did you know?  But assisting your sex partner on conversing matters outside of the bedroom  just may be the push they need for them to lend you a hand inside of the bedroom. A give and take, so per say. If she doesn’t want or need your help, don’t offer. Know when too much is too much and don’t try so hard. Unless it enhances your sexual experience.

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4 Ways You Can Tell If She’s Good At Sex

Men want women who love sex, and more importantly are good at it. Some women may look at sex as obligatory in a relationship or a marriage and no man wants to have to spend his time with a woman who is overwhelmed by fear and doubt about her own sexuality. If she is not going to enjoy her time in bed with you, it will become tiresome, boring and ultimately unsatisfying. Here are four ways to tell if she’s good at sex.

The Eyes Have It. When you have a conversation with her, does she look at you and do her eyes lock in, or does she quickly lose focus? If the conversation flows easily and her eyes remain locked in when she’s talking to you, she is into you. If she is looking at her watch, checking her texts and cell phone messages and her eyes dart away, she has other things on her mind besides you and she probably won’t put her full effort into making lovemaking enjoyable because she just doesn’t care about you or having sex with you all that much.

Aggressive movements. If she is willing touch your hand, your face or your body without you making a similar movement first, she probably enjoys making physical contact. That’s a great sign for both enjoying sex and being good at it. She will follow her instincts instead of repressing them. Men are regularly expected to make the first move and this can tire out any relationship. If she likes sex and is good at it, she will initiate by touching on a regular basis.

Flexibility. There are some aspects of sex that are like athletic contests. A woman who is in good physical condition will likely have the capacity for both flexibility and endurance. The ability to move her body in a flexible fashion can provide great thrills for you and for her. This will allow her to develop her sexual instincts to the fullest. Women who are not in shape and are carrying extra weight can enjoy sex and be very skilled at it, but it may shorten the lovemaking session because it will tire her out. It’s certainly not a dealbreaker, but a flexible and in-shape woman may be able to exhibit more endurance in lovemaking.

Kissing. No surprise with this area being a telltale sign for good or bad sex. If you are turned on while kissing her, you will likely enjoy having sex with her. If you feel passion and heat when kissing, she is probably great at sex. If you feel like her tongue is non-existent or lifeless, the lovemaking can be an exercise in boredom. It works in the opposite direction as well. She will quickly know whether you are adventurous or scripted by the way you kiss.

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5 Tips For How To Dress For Sex

The first thing guys should know about dressing for sex is not to make it obvious. Subtle is sexy. A T-shirt that says, “I want to sleep with you” is not. All clothing items should fit comfortably but not sleazily tight. You may also want to opt for things that are easy to get on and off, keeping belts, buckles and laces to a minimum. Once you have the basics down, it’s time to go into further details with other tips that can make the ladies swoon without realizing you’ve consciously dressed for sex.

Show off your butt – tastefully. Showing off your butt does not, repeat, does not mean wearing those prison-inspired baggy pants that let the wind whoosh through your butt crack. A slim-fitting pair of jeans can work wonders as a guy’s butt is one of the first things gals notice. Why else do you think your girlfriend honestly doesn’t mind watching football?

Invest in good underwear. What counts as good underwear is subjective, but there are some ground rules. No holes. No rips. No sayings like “Kiss It, I’m Irish.” Tighty whities look like little boy undies, as do those with superhero logos. Go for a fitted pair of boxer briefs that show off your assets. Men tend to keep their underwear for years, even decades, but do your sex life a favor and get some fresh BVDs before you look to get busy.

Be casual, but neat. Dressing casual is A-OK as a sex prompt, as it shows you are laid back, perhaps a bit wild and ready to have some fun. Casual, however, can easily turn to cruddy and a total turnoff if you interpret the word to mean “sloppy.” A comfy T-shirt is one thing. A comfy T-shirt with stains streaming from the armpits and rips up the front is another. Yuck.

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6 Signs She’s Interested You Might Miss

You can rip the petals off a daisy, flip a coin or ask your best bud to find out if a woman is interested in you. Or you can keep a keen eye on her body language and behavior for some subtle signs of her interest that you could easily miss. Paying such acute attention to your date can help you pick up these not-so-obvious signs of being smitten, and it can also do double-duty as a sign that you are an attentive date. If she was not interested from the get-go, being so dang attentive just might win her heart.

The mimic. When yours and your date’s steps become aligned, or you both start to take a bite of dinner at the same time, that gal is probably into you. Mimicking your behavior is a subconscious thing women do when they are interested. The mimic is not mimicking in the making fun way, like when a long-term girlfriend starts imitating your whining during a fight, but a subtle copying of your moves and behavior.

The head tilt. A woman tilting her head can be more than a sign that she has water in her ear. A slight tilt often means she’s interested in you. We’re not talking about a tilting in all directions like a bobble head doll, but rather holding her head at a slight angle in any direction, an indication she wants to learn more.

The touchy-feely. Grabbing at your crouch is an obvious sign she’s interested-or a total whore. Touching your arm lightly, subtle brushing up against you or even twirling her own hair in a touchy-feely way are less obvious signs she’s interested that you might miss. This does not count if she’s pulling a wad of chewing gum out of her tresses.

Big, fat lips and eyelids. A big, fat grin can be a dead giveaway that a woman is interested in you, but more subtle signs show up on other areas of her face. A woman’s lips and eyelids tend to enlarge when she’s aroused thanks to the higher amounts of blood that come pumping into her head. And you thought collagen implants could make lips so sultry!

Big, fat pupils. If a gal has dilated pupils, it does not always means she’s strung out on meth. It could mean she’s strung out on you. Pupils become enlarged when someone wants to see more of a good thing. You should still check to make sure she still has all her teeth, however, just so you can fully rule out a meth problem.

A real laugh. Gals can giggle at your bad jokes all night long in the hopes of a second date, but if she’s really interested in you, her laugh will be as sincere as her dilated pupils. A weak tee-hee doesn’t cut it, but an all-out, shake-the-rafters laugh does. This woman is not only interested in you, she actually finds your personality amusing and is comfortable enough to let it all hang out, so to speak, with an authentic guffaw.

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Life Hacks: Sex Hacks For The Bedroom

“Sex is natural, sex is fun!” so sayeth George Michael, and who are we to argue with him? His 80’s era beard and tight jeans are the stuff of legend. But even he would admit that after a while, sex can get routine. A little bit, anyway. It’s like, steak is delicious, but over a long enough timeline it loses its appeal, and you need some steak sauce, some mushrooms, and some onions. The sexual equivalent of these condiments would be to add something new, something exciting, to help make your sex life better, with only a minimum amount of effort. The kids call it a life hack, something of a shortcut to make life easier. But us, we call this a “sex hack,” and we’ve got four sex hacks to add some excitement to your life!

1. Clothed Male, Naked Female Massage. A sensual, full body massage is a thing of beauty. It’s a simple gesture of affection, plus it feels good. But you can add a twist to it. Off to rub your lady down, head-to-toe (she won’t say no) while she’s fully revealed, but you stay clothed. It guarantees the attention will be entirely on her, and more than that it builds sexual excitement through restraint. Holding back makes the release all the better and this simple sex hack makes the simple massage new again!

2. Role Playing. It’s cliché, but have you ever actually tried it? If you genuinely get into a character and give role playing an honest go, you’ll be surprised at how much it can add to your sex life. Slipping into someone else’s skin (metaphorically!) allows you to behave in ways you normally would not, and can raise the sexual stakes! For added fun, set up a video camera and film your own movies. The thrill of watching yourself as someone else will increase your arousal tenfold!

3. Foreplay, of a Different Sort. Before you dive into an entrée, it’s wise to whet your appetite with a few hors d’oeuvres. No one’s saying foreplay isn’t important, but after a while, even that can become routine. Enter the sex hack, and its ability to alter your sexual routine. Before sex, try pampering your lady. While fully nude, spend time brushing her hair until it shines. Rub her feet and do her nails, all while offering soft kisses and loving glances. Men may scoff, but try these things and see if they don’t work. Few women would hate the idea of a candlelight rosewater bath versus another clumsy gropefest.

4. Would You Like To Play a Game? There’s value in the unpredictable, in unforeseen outcomes. Hack your sex life and add some competition in the form of a game before sex. Be it a board game, cards, videogames, or what have you, adding a sense of fun and good-natured antagonism will help build the sexual gratification later And, as we all know, to the victor go the spoils. And the spoils of sex can be very rich indeed!

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6 Ways To Level Up Your Sex Life

Does your sex life feel like the mid 1980s? You know, eight-bit? If you can’t get your princess to be more than a flat, two dimensional, pixelated character in the bedroom, then maybe your pipe isn’t enough. Are you starting to feel like it’s time for an upgrade? For all you former Supers and Sonics out there, it’s time to get your sex life back up to speed. If you want to experience some great sex, some HDTV next gen freakiness, look no further; use these six ways to level up your sex life.

Get your RPG on. What’s the main thing you do when playing an RPG? Explore, that’s what. If you want to kick your sex game in to high gear, the first step is to spend more time exploring her body. Really exploring. That kissing her down below just to get her wet crap is for the eight-bit ducks. Really take the time to know her body. Find out alternate ways to warp her to ecstasy that don’t involve your magic wand. The more creative you are, the better. Oh, and remember those cheat codes for later. You’ll be able to incorporate them during actual gameplay.

Game guides. There are thousands of books out there that’ll up your sex I.Q. Grab one that seems interesting. Start on page one and work your way to the back of the book…with her, of course. It’s all about continuing to find new things that she likes. Once you’ve amassed a wealth of ways to get her to the next level, you can mix and match. She’ll never know what hit her. Remember, never stop looking for different combinations that’ll put her on pause.

Power ups. Sex toys, gentlemen. They are not your mortal enemies. They can be very powerful allies in the fight to get her off. Why overlook her vibrator, when you could use it to simultaneously stimulate her while you use your other weapons to please her? Dedicate yourself to helping her reach levels of pleasure she hasn’t reached previously. You’ll be greatly rewarded.

Online gaming. In the video game world, online gaming allows you to compete with people all over the planet. In the sex game, think of you and your woman as being two adventures on a magical quest. What is that quest, you ask? This quest is to find any and every new nook and cranny to get down in. The bed is for old folks. Take her in the car, a secluded place at the mall or the back of a dark movie theater. Be inventive. Be brave. Be exciting.

Wireless controls. Show her that you’re willing to go as far as she wants to go, then push her further. It can’t be stressed enough that having an open mind in the bedroom, or wherever you decide to get down, is the best way to level up your sex life. Don’t allow anything to become routine. Show up at her office in the middle of the day and give her the lunch she deserves. Stop your elevator just because you like her neckline in that dress. It doesn’t matter the reason. It just matters that you do it. The best sex is always the sex that isn’t tied down by parameters…as long as you’re both comfortable, of course.

Pre-order. Sex doesn’t have to start when you physically see her. A well placed freaky text or unexpected phone call can get her mind racing long before you guys have your respective ways with each other. Don’t underestimate the value of words and how they fall in to foreplay.

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6 Ways Marriage Can Improve Your Sex Life

This just in. Apparently being married can actually improve your sex life. Who would have guessed that spending time with one woman could actually make you better at sex. All this time guys have been thinking that they needed a boat load of sexual partners to really achieve sexual greatness. Well no more. Why deal with multiple women with multiple hang ups, attitudes, problems and such? Just find one good one, marry her, and get to improving your sex life. Still not convinced, brothers? Well here are six ways marriage can improve your sex life.

Knowing your partner. When you have multiple partners, you have to go through the trouble of taking the time out to find out what ALL of them like. Here's a hint. What one woman likes may not float another chick's boat. As a matter of fact, it may sink it. When you're married, you can put all your energy into figuring out your wife. The more time you spend, the better the sex will be.

Steady sex. Even the most tested and proven of players goes through a drought, but not the married guy. As long as you keep performing at a high level in the bedroom, you'll always have a constant supply of sex from your wife. She won't hit you with the "I have a headache" crap, because she'll want to get down just as much as you. Just make sure you spend the necessary time figuring out how to please her.

Inevitable creativity. According to Keith Adlow M.D., relaxing in marriage has the inevitable outcome of becoming unimpressed with your mate.  If you're going to have one partner, i.e. your wife, after a while, you'll be forced to try new things. It's not a bad thing. No one likes stale sex. It'll be up to you two to keep it fresh by trying to figure out more and more freaky ways to get each other off. Imagine the possibilities of increasing your sexual pleasure with your wife every single time you have sex. Excited? You should be. You can't do this kind of stuff with multiple partners. You need to focus on one to continually pull this off.

Improved confidence. For men, sexual performance is centered around their confidence level. The guy that has confidence in his package and his ability to wield his package is going to perform better in the bedroom. If you've proven to your wife that you can send her to Jupiter and back every single time you guys take off, then your confidence will be pretty high. Better confidence, better sex.

A partner that knows you. Sex isn't all about giving, you want to get something too. Well, believe that your woman will be learning you just like you're gathering info on what she likes. As long as you guys keep the sex fresh, she'll be your bedroom tigress. She'll blow your mind just like you blow hers. Sex is great because you make it great. There's no greater lover than a woman that knows you.

No condoms. Everybody knows that sex feels a hell of a lot better without the use of condoms. They also know that not using condoms with multiple ladies is pretty much a suicide attempt. When you're married, you don't need them. Birth control is for preventing children, not STDs. In which case there are alternate forms of birth control which don't lessen the sexual pleasure for you.

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8 Signs You Shoudn’t Propose To Your Girlfriend

Knowing the signs and much-needed warnings to a failed proposal can save a guy time, energy and money. Don’t you wish you had a crystal ball to foresee the proposal future? Outside of the basic warning signs to correct your blindness in heading toward proposals from hell, here are eight red flags to consider.

Your girlfriend is wasted! She’s stoned drunk! Avoid proposing, even if you are near Vegas. Slurring after a couple of drinks, holding up the walls while walking sideways, or calling you someone else is a solid indication that your girlfriend is plastered. If she’s holding an empty bottle of Captain Morgan, there’s your sign! For the sake of memories, make sure you both can remember. Make sure neither one of you are drunk before proposing.

Your girlfriend has a boyfriend. He’s always up in her biz and her house like a husband. He is the “other” friendly boy. If your girlfriend is too tied up with her other guy to make time for you, then you know what to do. Don’t propose, and then ask out one of her girlfriends.

Sleeping on proposal. Before scheduling that special night make sure that your girlfriend is in the right state of mind (or close enough). Just like men, women need their sleep and energy. Once your girlfriend catches up on sleep, then propose. The sleep deprivation proposal is not the way to go.

She’s having a bad day. When proposing overwhelms a stomach full of butterflies, throwing up is only a matter of time. Do not propose if you or your girlfriend are shaking like a leaf. Try to propose to someone having a bad day, and no one can promise a peaceful outcome. Propose on a good day to start on a good foot.

Religion theft. There are some religious chapters that try to enforce a changeover from one religion to the next when it comes to marriage, such as a non-Catholic bride-to-be taking Catholic classes prior to marrying the Catholic groom. This is the politics of religion. To lose one’s religion is easier said than done, and if your girlfriend tries to force you to convert to her religion against your will, there’s your sign not to propose!

Breaking the bank. If you find your bank account disappearing each time she works her magic, perhaps you should hold off on proposing to your girlfriend. She could have an underlying shopping addiction well hidden from you. But don’t jump the discount gun just yet. She may not be a daily shopper at all. A good indication of her shopping issue can be seen on your borrowed credit card, meaning that is what you financially have to look forward to if she says yes.

Attorney or bill of trust? Trust can become an issue for those with attorneys present. Usually the attorney is a dead give away that your girlfriend could be loaded with cash or drowning in bills. Consider the aftermath of marrying someone else’s financial hardships. That’s what you sign up for-the joining of two-and in most states, the gathering is literal. An attorney present for little or no reason is a sure sign you shouldn’t propose to your girlfriend.

Work related, proposal deflated. Work should always come first in the early stages of the proposal level. You have something big coming up. Your girlfriend’s career is about to take off. Step back and experience the good things to come before taking that huge leap in securing your future with her. Respect the job-related moment for what it is-a job-and take it down a notch on the proposal for a better fitted date.

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Choosing The Perfect Engagement Ring

If you’ve made up your mind to go ahead and propose to your girlfriend, then you’re likely feeling a little pressure. After all, when you pop the question, you need to arm yourself with a beautiful ring. In fact, ‘beautiful’ shouldn’t even be your goal; you’re going to need to bring out the big guns and shoot for perfection! But what if you don’t know anything about fine jewelry? What if you look at the gems on the Home Shopping Network and think “Hey, that’s pretty nice”?

Take a deep breath, Romeo, because we’re about to enter the world of diamonds. It’s a sparkly world, and most women go ga-ga for these precious stones, but just because the ladies love them doesn’t mean you can pick any old diamond, glue it to a metal circle, and call it an engagement ring. There are rules to picking out a diamond ring, things that you absolutely have to know before you throw down a few months’ worth of cash. And diamonds are only part of the equation; the ring itself and the stone’s setting can be just as important. Fortunately, with a little education, you can pick out the perfect engagement ring and your proposal will be the magic moment you’ve both been hoping for!

Learn the 4 ‘Cs’. Those four ‘Cs’ are Cut, Clarity, Color, and Carat. Diamonds are not all created equal. They can vary wildly when it comes to their quality, and for the average guy spotting these differences can be tricky. That’s why there’s a standard scale that grades Color quality for diamonds, and that scale helps to take the guesswork out of your shopping experience. The best diamonds are virtually colorless, and those stones lie at the top of the scale. The top graded diamonds are rated D, E, and F grade (there’s no A, B, or C). Those stones are going to break your bank account, so it may be in your best interest to go one tier down and look at the G diamonds. G stones are usually in most fine jewelry, and the naked eye is not able to detect the differences between an F and G diamond, but you know who will know the difference? Your accountant, because the difference in price between the two can be staggering. G diamonds are still very pricey, but they won’t cripple your finances.

Apart from the Color, check out the Clarity rating. There’s another rating system for clarity, but for most high-quality engagement diamonds, you’ll want the VVS1 rating, which stands for “Very Very Slight Inclusions.” Inclusions are the internal abnormalities that may cloud a diamond. VVS1 is third from the top, but trying to find an F or IF (Flawless or Internally Flawless) diamond is going to be tricky, not to mention costly. It’s all about wowing her with the ring, and unless she has a jeweler’s loupe handy she won’t notice the difference. The next ‘C’ to consider is the Carat weight of the diamond. Pretty obvious, but Carat refers to the diamond’s mass, not its size. So, the heavier the diamond, the more expensive it is. There’s no way around this, really, so if you want the big stone, prepare to spend big money. And lastly, consider the Cut of the stone. The standard for most engagements rings is the aptly titled “Ideal Cut Diamond.” It’s named as such because of the many tiny cuts on the diamonds surface that give the diamond its shine. Other cuts are available, and depending on your girl’s tastes, they may even be preferable.

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“Certificates are sometimes referred to as the ‘fifth’ C. A diamond certificate, or grading report, is a certified evaluation of your diamond that includes grades for all four Cs. No matter where you buy your ring, insist on receiving a copy of the certification.”
- Chris Easter, editor-in-chief of GroomsAdvice.com and author of “Be The Man”

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Style Counts! Okay, so now you know enough about diamonds to make the right purchase, but guess what? How those diamonds are presented is just as important. There are numerous settings and arrangements available. You can go classic with the traditional Solitaire Diamond in a four-prong Basket Setting, but what if your girl likes something a little less conventional? There are many, many stylistic options out there for you, but one of the most popular styles going today involves a Bezel setting, in which the stone is secured closer to the gold band. The stone is then surrounded on either side by two smaller diamonds. This is called the “Past, Present, and Future” style of ring, as the three stones are supposed to symbolize the different stages of your relationship. But be warned, this style works best with white gold instead of yellow gold. This is because the stone is much closer to the band, and a yellow band will reflect more on the diamond’s surface, making the diamond look yellow, and thus not as nice. Yellow diamonds are far down on the Color scale, so go with white gold for this setting. Which, coincidentally, leads to the next tip:

Know Your Girl’s Taste. You’ve got a design in mind for the ring, and you’ve got the cash together. But you can’t make the purchase without first taking your future fiancée’s taste into consideration. Obviously, you don’t want to spoil the surprise of the engagement, but there are clandestine ways to gauge her taste in jewelry. The best way? Look at her jewelry! You’ll notice right away if she prefers white gold or yellow gold by what she wears or what she has stashed in a drawer. On top of that, figure out what kind of a statement she likes to make with her jewelry. Does she prefer big pieces that really attract attention, or is she the type who likes a more understated type of jewelry? If she likes a modest ring and you show up with a monster of an engagement ring, your big moment may not be the way you envisioned it. Also, take a moment to get a feel for her ring size by looking at her other jewelry, so you can avoid costly resizing fees.

Payment is Paramount. Okay, this last tip may seem obvious, but you need to hear it. Try as hard you possibly can to avoid financing your ring. Seriously, even if you have to put off your engagement for a little while as you scrape together some extra cash  you want to pay for most, if not all of the ring up front. Why? Well…do you want to be the one to tell your girlfriend that you have to take the ring back because you can’t afford to pay for it? For the sake of your relationship, pay cash for the ring.

-Stu Moody

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How to Turn Sexting into Actual Sex

‘Sexting’ is one of those words you’re probably really tired of hearing. Not least of all because you’re wondering how you can get in on the action. Sexting by itself isn’t a bad way to spend your time—especially if it happens to be with Rihanna—but if you’re like every other red-blooded male, you’re eventually going to want to turn it into the real deal. Here’s your step-by-step guide.

1. Start SlowYes, there really are guys who are going to straight send a girl a crotch shot right off the bat. You don’t want to be that guy. It’s not that we don’t think your mighty meat saber isn’t impressive enough to warrant her attention; it’s just that she’s more into you than your package itself. So slow down there, Tiger. She’ll want to see it eventually. Instead, start with casual flirting and playful banter, just like if you were chatting in a bar.

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Feel free to use jokes and innuendoes to wade into the good stuff, and remember: in this situation, it’s always better to ask for forgiveness than permission.

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2. Push the EnvelopeThis might seem to contradict the last point, but it’s all about finding balance. It’s up to you to gradually turn up the heat. You do that by pushing her boundaries a little, bit by bit. Don’t be afraid to be edgy. You aren’t chatting with your mother, you’re trying to get hot and heavy with the girl you’re into. Feel free to use jokes and innuendoes to wade into the good stuff, and remember: in this situation, it’s always better to ask for forgiveness than permission.

3. Calibrate to Her ReactionsOf course, pushing the envelope doesn’t mean being a total creepvert. You want to increase the level of eroticism and intimacy without making her feel uncomfortable. If she seems to be a little put off, back off a little. You don’t have to stop completely, just dial down the intensity a notch or two.  Think two steps forward, one step back. If she continues to appear uncomfortable, then it’s time to take a break. Alternately, if you drop an innuendo that can be interpreted as innocent or dirty, and she takes it the dirty route, go with it, young man.

Not exactly the response you should be aiming for…

4. Be Careful with PicsNot to sound like your high school health teacher, but remember that in the digital age, pictures are forever and spread like wildfire. No matter how proud you are of all that time spent at the gym, you probably don’t want to be on HotWebHunks.com (we just bought the url!). If your lady is exhibiting signs of being a crazy future cat-herder, definitely do not send her a picture… of anything. If you must, at least leave your face out of it.

No wonder Anthony Weiner got in so much trouble. That resolution is horrible.

5. Walk the TalkYou should never promise anything in a sext session that you can’t deliver in real life. Honesty counts, because if you’re b.s.-ing her, she’s going to find out eventually. Feel free to be really descriptive, as you’re only working with words—no vocal tonality, eye contact or hand motions. Chicks can be just as dirty as guys, but they generally also want a man with a mind. In other words, scintillatingly clever dirty talk will blow her mind.

6. Make It HappenAll that said, sexting is only about a half-step above self-pleasuring. You want to get her doing the real thing. If you two are far apart geographically, you’re just going to have to bring this thing to its logical conclusion and hope she’s interested later. But if you’re in the same city, it’s time to steer the conversation toward your, um, male needs. Frame it in terms of ‘loneliness’ rather than getting off. Then offer to go to her. Asking her to come to you isn’t so smooth, since no lady likes to feel like a call girl. At least not on the first date.

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